1.Pre-condition must be mutual attraction on a spiritual level, an unfolding process of soulmating and mutual understandings - nothing physical except for a brief kiss on the cheek, a hand-kiss or a long hug and handshake
2-As the process unwinds and enriches with more intense feelings and emotions, fueled by mutual experiences and mutual understandings, as the souls do draw closer to each other in every way, and the need and desire for exchange on the spiritual and concious level continues to grow and intensify, from afar most of the time, and in some rare intances from near as well, stepping out of imagining and story-telling into the real world, enchanted by the aroma and perfume of the two persons so closely and intimately drawn towards each other, the degree of intensity known during the unfolding process, watered down by distance and space, now becoming a hundredfold more intense and intoxicating, shere boosters from current romance level to yet a higher level, each such encounter soaring higher and higher, the mainprocess begins :
3- The enchantened and romatically upgraded stage takes its natural course: the intimate encounter: this can be the best or the worst stage. This stage requires maturity and readiness in order to avoid the pitfalls of the post- encounter stage, which can be traumatic and destructitive if not understood and taken care of from the very beginning of the romantic encounter.
The spoilers: hastiness - lust - uncontrolled action, remorse, guilt, posseviness, jealousy , scandals dis-enchantment,disappoitment, dis-illussion etc etc
The ulitmate experience takes careful planning, full readiness, romantic state of mind,romatic experience, nothing happens fast or instantly, slow unfolding and gradual enchantment is required for the encounter ... Also, at any stage, the encounter should not be taken for granted, it might or might not happen, there is never an obligation to make it happen at all costs .. Only mutual readiness can lead to the encounter, no pushing no forcing,no disappointments when it doesnt happen !
4- The actual encounter - the highlight and crown-jewel of the romance, each time anew, precious,ultimate experiences,unforgettable for the rest of ones life !
Mutual readiness,intense emotions and feelings developed over time, intensified during the past several hours of romantic togetherness have now led the couple to flow on the wave-length of spiritual enchantement,forgetting the world surrounding them .. The setting is soft,warm,romantic , the energy emense and overwhelming ... Slow and easy is the order of the hour, avoiding all the spoilers and pitfalls. Only when mutual understanding had been reached prior to these special precoius moments, that after the encounter, everything will turn back to its pre-encounter stage, none of the spoilers will apply, and this encounter becomes a precious event unto itself, lasting over time with the sweetest of memories towards yet another opportunity in the future. They must remain pearls on a string, not result in a post encounter trauma or drama setting, life continues afterwards, enriched and upgraded, but basically in its normal pattern where the rest of the world is concerned ...
5- In this highened and mutual awareness state, the romance becomes intimate: closeness, bodylanguage,bodyexpressions,tenderness and gentleness is the hallmark of this stage ...hugging,slight touches with the body, brushing,and gentle pressing (avoid direct touching and pushy hands, avoid the tabu parts, private parts must remain private), kissing - gentle and easy (never thrusting demanding tongues) wave and wave of intense feelings overcome the two romancees, as they are close and withdrawn from the world,enchanted and uplifted in this special moment of the encounter. Everything is perfect, a little wine is okay, no intoxication , control is always intact .. The heart demands, the body demands even stronger actions, but the mind is still the control center ... Standing,sitting,dancing,lying close to one another, dressed in special romantic loose clothes, but no nakedness,no sexy outfits designed to arouse lust.
This can continue for hours, matters not whether night or day, this encounter has its own set of time, the outside world doesnt interfere, doesnt exist for the duration of this encounter (no disruptions,interuptions,no phonecalls etc)...
The intimacy makes no promises of a full sexual engagement in the ultimate love-making ... which combined with the right romantic encounter could be the highlight,but the very mention of the word sex can be a spioler if not on guard .. None of the two people involved in the intimate encounter shud even think about it, or worse .. anticipate it !
Love-making can only occurr when the intensitiy of the intimacy is so great, so overwhelming for both partners, that it is experienced as the ultimate peak of these precious hours ... They must not be planned, they must not be anticipated, they must be a mutual passionate desire of BOTH parties, with the same degree of intensity, and love-making must not be missed or regretted if it doesnt happen .. The romantic encounter is no less intense or less important without that final ultimate step .. It either will or just wont happen, the romance doesnt require it to be perfect.
